TDLC Blog

How did your parents teach you to tie your shoes? Bunny rabbit? Loop, swoop and curl? There are songs, poems, and rhymes dedicated to teaching this task. They are cute, but they may not be helpful for a child with autism. While it may seem like a simple task, tying your shoes is made up of lots of smaller tasks. This is true of many self-help skills and daily tasks children have to perform.

When I was a kid some of my favorite things to play with were the pots and pans from the kitchen cupboard. I would sit on the kitchen floor and bang away on the bottom of the cookware with a couple of wooden spoons. I am pretty sure my musical endeavors single-handedly kept Tylenol in business, what with all the headaches I gave my parents. When my parents finally kicked me out of the kitchen so they could make dinner (and salvage their eardrums), I would dump Legos all over the floor and build worlds for the Lego people to inhabit.

Troubleshooting Common Potty Problems - Part 5 of a 5-part guide to toilet training your children.

It would be lovely if one day we decided that we wanted our children toilet trained and, poof, it happened. Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way. Children often hit snags during the toilet training process. Below are some of the most common issues and how to handle them:

 

Going Potty on a Schedule - Part 4 of a 5-part guide to toilet training your children.

If devoting an entire weekend to a potty party isn’t your style, you can just add toilet training to your regularly scheduled daily activities. Initially, you should plan a bathroom break for every 30-45 minutes. When you take your child to the restroom, have him sit there for at least 10 minutes. Provide toys or books to keep him occupied as he sits on the toilet, but also make it clear why you are there. Explain that you are going to try to use the toilet. I emphasize “try”. It is impossible to force a child to use the toilet and by making an issue of it you are creating a situation your child will find aversive. Look at it like meal time: you provide a healthy meal and have your child sit at the table, but it is up to him to decide to eat. The bathroom breaks are merely opportunities, it is up to your child to take advantage of them. If your child is successful on the toilet, praise and give him high rewards. If your child is unable to go, explain that you will try again in a little while.

Potty Parties - Part 3 of a 5-part guide to toilet training your children.

Some parents are ambitious and want to knock out the whole toilet training thing as quickly as possible. Well, if you are that committed, know that toilet training can be done in a single weekend. This method, known as the “potty party”, can be quite useful as a primary crash course or as a refresher course if your child’s toilet training skills regress at some point in the future. It requires your intensive efforts for 2 to 3 days, so be prepared to devote your weekend to this procedure.

Is your child ready? - Part 2 of a 5-part guide to toilet training your children.

Before you begin toilet training, it is important to make sure that both you and your child are ready to tackle this challenge. Now by ready, I am not advocating the ever popular “readiness method”, which says you should wait until your child signals that he is in need of a diaper change, expresses interest in the toilet, and says he wants to use the toilet. Let’s be real about this: today’s diapers are incredibly absorbent; they could soak up half the Gulf of Mexico and still feel dry to the touch. If a child can continue to play with his toys while he pees and still be comfortable and dry afterward, there is no incentive for him to abandon his toys and proactively seek the restroom. However, there are some necessary skills that a child must have in order to master toilet training. These include:

 

First blog of the year, and I start with this? No it's not a typo, and I haven't fallen off my rocker just yet. We'll get to the subject quickly, but here are some behaviors that little kids are able to perform:

A guide to traveling with your children.

Family vacations when I was a child meant fitting two adults, three children, a 130 lb Rottweiler and a whole lot of camping gear into a Jeep. Once everyone was crammed in, there was the drive into the mountains or to the beach, which was inevitably punctuated by the dog getting carsick, copious bickering over the lack of space in the back seat and people usurping more than their share, and threats to pull the car over or turn it around. Eventually, we would make it to the campsite and spend a week or so exploring and enjoying the outdoors.

 

How Super Mario Brothers may actually help your child.

When I was a kid, the coolest house on the block was the one that had a Nintendo system. When it was too cold to play outside, all the neighborhood kids would gather in someone’s living room and take turns trying to beat Super Mario Brothers. I was hopeless at it; I don’t think I ever made it past the second or third level. But that was irrelevant; Nintendo afternoons were about more than just conquering the castle and saving Princess Peach from Bowser. They were about having fun and making friends.

Helping your kids enjoy their summmer break!

It is now officially summer, the favorite season of childhood. Parents often dread summer vacation. They fear their children will lose any knowledge gained during the past school year and wonder how they are going to entertain their children for months on end. And those are definitely valid concerns. But although academics may be sidelined for the season, summer presents unique opportunities to improve social skills and work on community outings. Summertime brings an abundance of kid-friendly community activities to choose from. And the best part: there are always so many kids at these events that any behaviors your child exhibits are likely to get lost in the commotion. Here are some ideas:

Increasing attending skills.

We're going to do our next few blogs slightly differently, as we're going to do a multipart series. We'll focus on what people want to talk about most: COMMUNICATION!!! The truth is that communication is what sets humans apart, as we have the ability to describe internal events (hunger, happiness), future events, and past events. We are going to look at all the concepts needed for fluent communication. Notice when I say communication, I did not say verbal communication. You can be a fluent communicator with PECS or with signs, although verbal is our first goal.

Dos and Don'ts of potty training - Part 1 of a 5-part guide to toilet training your children.

A couple months back my friend’s almost-2-year-old son began shouting “I go!” and yanking at his diaper every time he soiled himself. My friend found it a bit embarrassing in public, but I encouraged her to look at the bright side: her son was ready to start toilet training. I call that a bright side only on the basis of the end result because, let’s be honest, toilet training is not fun. I have toilet trained at least 50 kids over the years and I have learned enough to know that when it comes time to toilet train my own children I will pawn that duty off on someone else (that’s what husbands are for, right?) All joking aside, toilet training can be a complicated skill to teach, it requires a huge time investment, and it is messy. But the end result is totally worth it. In the next few blogs we will discuss toilet training basics, as well as a couple different methods to go about it, and how to manage some common issues.

To begin with, here are a few dos and don’ts with regards to toilet training:

Creating and attaining goals for your child.

As usual, I digress. However, this blog is about having a game plan for you child. No, I am not talking about your IEP goals, or what the consultant or therapists wrote down for you. I am talking about analyzing what you want to change, how to go about changing it, and then measuring your progress. I think the reason people get too scared to set goals for their family and children is that they feel like a failure if that goal is not achieved.

Big thank yous, and community outings.

This is the last blog before Thanksgiving, I want to say thank you to all the people who help make this blog and company possible.

First and foremost I would like to thank Darren at Woodlands Ad Agency for building a FANTASTIC site and giving me the opportunity to blog every two weeks. If you want to build a great website check out his web page http://www.woodlandsadagency.com/.

I hate Houston drivers. They are some of the worst drivers I have ever encountered (and I have seen some really bad driving while living in and traveling across the U.S., Europe, and North Africa). A typical Houston commute is stressful enough. A child in the back seat throwing a tantrum makes it so much worse. In addition to being stressed from traffic and other drivers, now your attention is divided and that distraction poses a safety hazard.

This has been a long year for me, and I finally got the chance to get away to Las Vegas for a mini-vacation with a couple of colleagues. We have been planning it for months, and last Friday night was supposed to be the special night where we do all the fancy things. We were going to eat at a fancy restaurant, go to a hip nightclub, and all the works.

Behavior history.

Sorry for taking so long on the blog this time. I got wrapped up working on a pro ject which I am excited about - evaluating therapy. I think if you are not currently evaluating how you do therapy, then you are not doing the kids justice.

I know I am getting older when I can't keep up with the new teeny-bopper stars like Lady Gaga and Hannah Montana, and I can't help but look at what an attention-maintained society we have become. ABA interventions can be for anyone, and it doesn't surprise me that our society is shifting to a more "look at me" sort of attitude.